Icon Sprite Social Accounts Sprite

The Six Stages of Mediation

Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution which helps individuals come to a timely agreement outside of the courtroom. While mediation is less formal than a traditional court case, it still involves several distinct stages designed to achieve positive results. During the mediation process, the mediator helps both parties evaluate their goals and find a mutually satisfactory solution. A typical family law mediation has six stages. At Tournour & Weiner in East Brunswick, NJ, we provide mediation services for parties involved in several types of family law cases, such as divorce. Our attorneys, Frank Tournour and Tiffany Weiner, are passionate about helping families reach an amicable solution without the stress and potentially high costs of a court case.

Man and woman shaking hands over desk

Knowing what to expect during the mediation process can allow for more effective cooperation.

Step One: Getting Started

To start the first session, the mediator will make an opening statement and set the tone of the session. They will also introduce everyone and explain the goals and rules of the mediation. At Tournour & Weiner, we begin our mediation sessions by encouraging everyone involved to work cooperatively toward a fair and beneficial settlement. 

Step Two: Opening Statements

After the mediator establishes the rules and goals of the session, each party will have the opportunity to make an opening statement. During this statement, you can explain, in your own words, what the dispute is about and how you have been affected by it. We also encourage you to share some general ideas you have for resolving the dispute. While one individual is speaking, the other is not allowed to interrupt. 

Step Three: Discussion

Once each party has a chance to describe the dispute from their point of view, the mediator will open the floor and begin a discussion about what was said in the opening statements. During this time, our mediators focus on asking open-ended questions which encourage a frank dialogue about what issues need to be addressed. In a family law case, these issues may include:

The goal of the discussion is to begin developing solutions for the issues and work towards a resolution.

Step Four: Private Meetings

Known as a private caucus, this step is an opportunity to discuss the strengths and weaknesses of your position privately with the mediator. You can also develop new ideas for the settlement. Depending on your needs, your mediator may meet with each party only once or several times. 

Step Five: Negotiation

After the private meetings, the mediator will bring the parties back together to negotiate directly. During this stage, you and the other party will work to refine a final agreement which meets your needs. 

Step Six: Closure

There are two possible endings to a mediation session. If an agreement is reached, the final stage of the process is putting the main provisions in writing. Your mediator may recommend having the agreement reviewed by your personal lawyer. In most cases, the mediated agreement will need to be approved by a judge to become official. 

Mediation offers many benefits over traditional litigation, especially for family law disputes.

If no agreement is reached, the mediator will review the progress and advise you of your options. Depending on the situation, they may recommend meeting again for another mediation session, taking the dispute to arbitration, or going to court. 

Begin the Mediation Process Today

Mediation offers many benefits over traditional litigation, especially for family law disputes. For more information about our mediation services, contact our practice online or call (732) 418-9772 to speak with a member of our team. We also encourage you to read answers to frequently asked questions about mediation.

Message Our Staff

I had an excellent experience with Mr. Tournour - He was available for my calls and handled everything to perfection. Had my back in every aspect. I would highly recommend him. Renee - Client

Visit Our Office

We have 2 locations in the Monmouth and Middlesex Counties

View Locations